However, it's important to realize these tips will not work for everyone. Sixty-eight percent of couples who optimized their baby-making sex conceived in three months. After a year, 92 percent were pregnant. Unfortunately, pregnancy isn't something that can be planned exactly.
Discontinue Your Birth Control
Obviously, if you want to get pregnant, you need to stop using birth control. What you may not know is that you may need time for your fertility to return. It depends on what kind of birth control you were using.
With most forms of birth control, your fertility will return the next cycleafter you stop using it. There may be a few bumpy months while your cycleregulates itself, but it’s also possible to get pregnant your first official fertile monthHowever, it’s not always a simple and quick process. If you have an implant or an IUD, you’ll need to schedule a doctor appointment for removal. That takes time. It may also take a few months for your cycles to regulate after hormonal IUD removal. (With the copper only IUDs, your fertility should return quickly.) If you’ve been on the birth control shot, it may take several months for your fertility to return.Talk to your doctor so you have realistic expectations when you can start trying to get pregnant.
Having sex often for the entire month is good for baby making. Every other day or every two days is a good amount, according to research and the opinion of the Practice Committee of the American Society for Reproductive Medicine.
Optimize Your Baby-Making Sex
You may be able to get pregnant faster if you optimize your conception sex.
One important thing to be aware of is that regular personal lubricants, like Astroglide and KY Jelly, are harmful to sperm. The best lubricant for conception is your own cervical fluid. But if this is an issue for you, there are sperm-friendly options available, such as mineral oil, canola oil, or hydroxyethylcellulose-based lubricants such as Pre-Seed and ConceivEase.
It's debatable whether sexual position or lying down after sex will help you conceive. The committee opinion from the American Society for Reproductive Medicine says there is no effect. However, research on IUI treatment found that lying down after insemination boosts pregnancy rates. If you're trying to conceive faster, you may want to at least try lying on your back after sex for a few minutes. On the other hand, if missionary position is a big turn off for you, maybe more creative positions would help.
Research has found that sexual arousal plays a role in how much sperm is ejaculated. Female orgasm may also help with conception. Having passionate sex may help you get pregnant faster as well. That said, don’t stress about having an orgasm. It’s not required!
Use an Ovulation Predictor Kit or Ovulation Monitor
Your most fertile days are the two days prior to ovulation. You can figure out which days these are through several methods, including charting your body basal temperature, checking for fertile cervical mucus, tracking cervical changes, and using a saliva ferning microscope.
The problem with all these methods is they have a steep learning curve. For BBT charting, figuring out how to get your temps right in the morning and interpreting your chart is an issue. You may have an easier time using ovulation predictor kits or ovulation monitors.
Ovulation tests work like pregnancy tests. You pee on a stick or strip of paper to get a result. They are a little more difficult to interpret than pregnancy tests, so read the instructions carefully.
Ovulation monitors take much of the learning curve out of ovulation tests. The digital device tells you when you're most fertile. They are more expensive, though, so you may want to combine charting with ovulation predictor kits.
Optimize Your Fertility Health
In the short-term, there are quite a few things (many of which are probably obvious) that a woman can do to increase her chances of getting pregnant.
First, she has to get enough sleep. Odd sleep and wake cycles can throw off the menstrual cycle, which is unlikely to lead to infertility but could make getting pregnant quickly more difficult. Women trying to conceive also need to eat a balanced diet and drink plenty of water. Avoid binge diets or other extreme eating plans when trying to conceive.
If at all possible, women who want to get pregnant should try to decrease their stress. It's still unclear whether or not stress leads to infertility. However, acute stress can throw off a woman's cycle. For those trying to get pregnant in a month or two, just one off cycle can put a serious dent in those plans.
You may want to cut back on caffeinated beverages. It’s debatably whether or not they impact fertility, but since you want to get pregnant fast, whatever you can do to optimize your overall health is best.
Something you absolutely should not do is douche. Your vagina is happy and clean as it is! When you douche, you disrupt the natural pH balance, wash away cervical mucus (which is there to keep sperm cells happy and moving), and partially eliminate the good bacteria. You increase your risk of vaginal infection and irritation, and those can also make it difficult to conceive.
For the men, keep the family jewels away from the heat. Hot tubs, laptops placed directly on the lap, seat warmers, and sitting too long with the legs close together can all increase the scrotal temperatures. This can negatively impact sperm counts.
And finally, the most oft-repeated health tip—quit smoking and cut down on alcoholic drinks. This is for men and women. This will not only improve your health now but also help you have a healthier pregnancy and child.
There are other things you can do to improve your fertility and overall health that take more effort and time. Women should try to achieve a healthy weight before trying to conceive, as being just slightly overweight has been shown to decrease fertility. Obesity may also negatively impact male fertility.
One thing all women should do before they get pregnant is to make sure they're getting enough folic acid. This is essential for healthy pregnancy. It may also impact fertility.
Go Easy on the Pregnancy Tests
Taking pregnancy tests won’t change how quickly you get pregnant, but it can affect your perception of time. Especially if you take multiple early tests, “peeing on a stick” frequently can make the days and weeks feel much longer.
Instead, commit to only taking a pregnancy test when your period is at least one day late. In other words, if you expected your period on Tuesday or Wednesday of a particular week, don’t take the test until Thursday. Better yet, wait until Friday. It’s not easy to wait to see if you’re pregnant, but remind yourself that when you take an early test, you are more likely to get a false negative anyway. (In other words, even if you did conceive, the test may not reveal your success.)
Get Medical Help If You Need It
If you don't conceive within six months (if you're over 35) or within a year (if you're younger than 35), see your doctor. Getting help doesn't mean you're giving up; it just means you're brave enough to find out if there's a reason why you're not conceiving, and whether you can take steps to address it.